First, show your friend that you can handle her complex and contradictory situation. Let her know through your words and actions that you can tolerate the discomfort, complexity, and sensitivity of her situation.
Don't say,"If you have any doubts, then you should call off your wedding," (Click to read my blog post on why it's so wrong.)
Say that, and your friend will likely cross you off her list of confidantes. She may even stop talking with you about what's going on altogether and move on to a friend who won’t have such a strong opinion, be judgmental or tell her what she should do.
Here are 5 ways to help a friend with cold feet before his or her wedding:
1. Don't judget
2. Be a sounding board
3. Keep your opinions to yourself
and stress pours out of him. Your job: just listen. Reflect back to them what he’s saying. Be a sounding board. Don't fix. Don't argue. Don't counter-argue. Don’t play the devil’s advocate. Don't try to talk him into or out of anything. Just listen.
4. Explore other sources of the cold feet
5. Express confidence in her ability to make a good decision and invite her to revisit this with you.
overcome. That will give her the confidence boost she needs to process her emotions and then make a sound decision. End the conversation with an open-ended invitation for more supportive, non-judgmental conversations in the future. Invite her to revisit all her concerns with you at a set future point in time.
Be the kind of friend that you’d want to have if you were going through your own cold feet.