Brides often get a bad rap for being "Bridezillas" -- demanding, detail-obsessed, unyielding, even selfish and argumentative.
But as I explain in this this interview on RadioMD with Melanie Cole, MS, "How to Deal with a Bridezilla," there's a reason for all this bridal drama....and there are some very helpful ways that bridesmaids and friends of the bride can do and say to the bride to dial it down.
To listen to this 10-minute interview, click here.
And be sure to pass it along to your bridesmaids, so they can help move out of crisis-mode and re-focus on what's truly important: getting married.
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But the bride herself was drawn to another style of dress altogether:
My eyes had wandered toward something more bohemian, less voluminous, but in terms of big purchases, in terms of fashion, I listened to my mother
Yet during the many subsequent fittings, the lovely, elegant and expensive dress just didn't feel right:
This dress, which cost about as much money as I'd made in the last year [as a writer] had flattered my waist and -- at least temporarily -- made me feel like dancing.
Between the initial purchase of the dress, when she was financially dependent on her parents as an actress and writer, and the final fitting 2 weeks before the wedding, her she sold her novel, for a lot of money. That changed things, among them her feelings about herself AND her wedding dress:
I took off the dress that we'd chosen -- my mother and I -- when my life had looked one way.
She tried on another dress -- "a 1930s fantasy -- silky, backless":
I felt the silk fall over my body like a sheet of cool water, I realized my life looked another way now. I also realized that the dress was a perfect fit.
Even her Mom knew the second dress was the right dress and didn't put up a fuss with the switch. Because the second dress more accurately reflected and represented who her daughter was and was becoming.
Have you had an experience like this during your engagement, when something you ordered or committed to at the beginning of your engagement didn't feel right as your wedding date approached?
Did it feel off because something about you has changed in the intervening months? What was changed in you? What changed in your relationship to yourself or others?
I'd love to hear your experiences -- please share below.