In the past year, I've counseled two clients -- a man and a woman -- who were both engaged to people who were "perfect on paper."
The 2 future spouses had only admirable qualities:
The futures looked bright
Both clients believed that they SHOULD want these perfect-on-paper people.
They should want these marriages.
That they'd be crazy to let go of someone who, for all intents and purposes, was perfect for them.