Rare is life as sweet as the first hours, days, and weeks of being engaged. Our advice? Prolong that lovely period for as long as possible
Easy: do not – we repeat – do not get into the nitty-gritty of wedding planning right away. Why? Because as soon as you start making real, actual plans, you’ll face the pressures of sticker shock and other people’s opinions. We want to help you postpone these complicating realities, since you’ll be living in them for many months to come. Just sayin’.
Don’t get stuck in the weeds of wedding planning. Do these 3 fun things to prolong the sweetness of this time:
1. Tell everyone, together.
Instead, you and your fiancé meet with important family and friends to share your news.
Or at least make a phone call with both of you on the line.
Contrast how different you’ll feel by getting a lot of Facebook “likes,” “OMG!” and “Congrats” responses versus hearing friends’ excited screams at your announcement, feeling their happy hugs, accepting their heartfelt congratulations, drinking their celebratory Champagne, and sharing your joy.
The latter sure sounds like a lot more fun and will create a lasting lifelong memory, marking the beginning of your engagement. Now that, we “like”!
2. Fantasize about your wedding.
Always wanted to get married on skis? In a bikini? At a castle?
What has your fiancé always envisioned? What crazy type of wedding would he want?
Bat around ideas for your impossible-to-reach and ridiculously expensive fantasy destination wedding.
Be lighthearted. Be outrageous. Reach for the stars.
Because you have plenty of limiting reality checks coming your way when you get down to business. For now, live in the fantasy, a world without pressures and pricetags.
3. Try on wedding dresses.
Here’s the deal: you can’t possibly buy a gown this early in the planning process – you don’t have a clue what your budget is, much less the style of your wedding.
So book an appointment at a major bridal chain just to have the life experience. Tell the salesperson, “This is my first pass; I’m not ready to buy today.”
And go crazy trying on every style you want -- and especially those you’d never envision yourself in.
We’ll say it again: you have months and months of real-world wedding planning ahead of you.
Your goal now: stay in the newness, fun and simple joy of just being engaged and postpone the nitty gritty details.