My mini-blog series continues
How 3 brides felt DURING the walk down the aisle.
Your walk down the aisle is the most epic, most photographed, most significant brief walk of your life. How will you feel as you make your way to your soon-to-be husband? You can't predict, but you can learn what three other brides experienced.
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Brides.com: 10 Reasons Why You Should Be Nervous Walking Down the Aisle (and 5 Reasons You Shouldn't)
"It absolutely is the biggest walk of your life," I said to her
"My question to you, however, is this: How do you know – today, two weeks before your wedding – that you’ll be a nervous wreck walking down the aisle fourteen days from now?”
“I don’t,” she relied. “But I’m pretty sure I’m going to be anxious.”
“Okay, but you can’t be certain,” I told her. “What if, instead of convincing yourself that you’ll be nervous just before your ceremony, you tell yourself that you will simply be curious about what you’re feeling?
What if you make a conscious effort to let in whatever feelings arise, let them course through your body and your mind? What if you treat the feelings you have when you walk down the aisle the same way you did when you were stuffing the envelopes?
That day, you let yourself feel the pang of sadness about leaving your family, but then a feeling of happiness about marrying Jake quickly followed. Remember that? What if you let one feeling flow through to the next, and let yourself be where you are?”
Please share your thoughts in the comments below, and stay tuned for next week’s installment of ‘Book to Blog’ – Chapter 9!
One reason your wedding is called your "big day" is because of the supersized emotions you'll probably feel.
The flood of love for your brand-new husband. The joy of being surrounded by your nearest and dearest. The stress of pulling off this big event. The twinge of sadness coupled with excitement as you walk down the aisle. The lighthearted fun and wildness when it's finally time to party. So much going on all at once!
Here are 7 tips that can help you:
Keep these in mind, and you won't have to watch your wedding day on video when you return from your honeymoon just to remember what happened. You'll be fully present.
7 tips for how to be a calm bride on your wedding day
Weddings are rough on our dear old Dads.
Nervous About Being the Center of Attention On Your Wedding Day? 10 Reasons Why You Should, and 5 Reasons You Shouldn't
Some brides just can't wait to be the center of attention on their wedding days. It's their time to shine, their dream come true. They love the spotlight. They're wired that way.
Other brides feel a whisper of dread when they imagine walking down the aisle.
Maybe you're a really private person.
Maybe you're introverted.
Maybe you're downright shy.
Maybe you feel pressure to perform.
That makes sense, because weddings are both intensely private and profoundly public
All eyes are on you, as you commit the intimate act of joining together for the rest of your lives.
So when someone says to you: “Don’t be nervous walking down the aisle," you think, "Um, how?"
You’re going to hear "don't be nervous" from everybody – your rabbi, your minister. Your maid of honor, your bridesmaids. Your Mom, your Dad. Your wedding coordinator. Even those teeny tiny flower girls might tell you: “Don’t be nervous.”
Don’t be nervous? Yeah, right. Are they the ones wearing the big, white dress, with all eyes on them, about to make a lifelong decision? We think not.
Here are 10 reasons why you should expect to be nervous:
1. It is the grandest of entrances.
2. It is one of those Big Moments in life.
3. It is silent.
4. It is ceremonial: your guests will stand to honor you.
5. It is transformative: you are walking out of one stage of your life and into a new one.
6. It is unknown and unpredictable: you can try to anticipate how you’re going to feel, but in the moment, you can’t control it. (Nor should you, if you want to be authentic.)
7. It is sad: just look at your wistful Mom and Dad.
8. It is powerful and moving: just look at your choked-up fiancé.
9. It is the most photographed walk of your life: how odd it is to be the subject of paparazzos.
10. It is nothing short of life changing and profound.
It’s OK to be nervous – got it?
Here are 5 reasons to counter-balance your nervousness:
1. You are not alone. Whether or not you walk with your Dad, parents, or solo, you are not alone. You’ve surrounded yourself with your nearest and dearest.
2. It’s epic and ancient. Think of the billions of brides who’ve come before you. You are walking in their footsteps. We think this is a pretty cool concept.
3. It’s a forgiving crowd. Remember: you’re not giving work presentation in front of your cutthroat co-workers. Everyone in this crowd is so happy for you.
4. He’s waiting at the end of the aisle. This wonderful man you’ve chosen, who’ll walk with you in life til the end of your days.
5. This is what you want. This man. This life. This future. It all begins now. All you have to do is take that walk down the aisle.
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