How’s this for making it real?
A California couple wants "shadow weddings" to be a part of the marriage rite and now counsels other couples on doing so before their weddings, as reported in this fascinating 9-minute NPR radio clip, "Speaking the Unspeakable:'Shadow Weddings' Before the Big Day.
The psychotherapist and life coach couple define shadow wedding as a very intimate ritual that takes place fairly close to the actual wedding, i.e. the “light wedding.” (To hear what they said to each other, listen to the clip.)
A Shadow Wedding is a sacred space created to speak to all of the fears, all of the concerns, all of those wedding jitters so that you can clear the way for pure joyous celebration on your Light Wedding.
It’s like a really cathartic therapy session with your spouse before you walk down the aisle.
In this spirit, what fears and concerns do you think you'd like your future spouse to know before the wedding?
If you're already married, do you wish you'd gotten it all on the table before you'd said I do?
If so, what warts-and-all parts of yourself would you reveal to your spouse (that they probably eventually found out anyway )?
Are you really struggling with your fiance's "warts"? Contact me for a free 15-minute consultation. Let me help you sort it thru.
I love hearing from brides, and I do every single week.
From middle-of-the-night emails from brides who've stumbled across my website and instantly feel less alone in their struggles, to brides I work with weekly throughout their engagements, it's a privelege and an honor to help women make this tricky transition from single to married.
This week a Tweet went out that made my day:
"My cousin commented that I'm the most relaxed bride she's ever seen. #soexcited #26daysleft Thank you @emo_engaged
And a note on my Facebook page:
"With less than a month to go until my wedding, some of my aunts and mother's friends commented that I was the most relaxed bride they've ever seen. I told them that it was all thanks to your book!"
The writer is Connie Ann, who wrote a post about my book, Emotionally Engaged: A Bride's Guide to Surviving the "Happiest" Time of Her Life.
We've never spoken, never met. She just read my book and wrote about it:
"Being engaged is not, by any stretch, the happiest time of your life. It’s exciting, yes. It’s a dream come true to marry your true love. But it’s also stressful. And you can feel sadness, hurt, anxiety, depression, and excitement all at the same time. Your life is changing, and no matter how much you love your husband-to-be, change is difficult. It’s confusing. And to top it all off, you’re simultaneously planning the biggest and most important party of your life"....(Click to read rest of the post)
Connie Ann, thank you for your honest words about what your engagement was like.
And a BIG THANK YOU that, despite the rocky, bumpy, emotionally difficult times when you were a bride-to-be, here you are, happy, ready and very relaxed about getting married in 3 weeks
We all want a full report -- and photos -- from your wedding day. It will be glorious, and you will be fully emotionally present for it all. You worked hard. You did it. You deserve it.
To all other brides: you too can make the journey from overwhelmed to relaxed, as Connie Ann did. But you've got to do the emotional work to get where she is today. My book and I can help. Contact me for a free 15-minute Skype consultation today to get started.
Join me for Bride 101: Emotional Prep for Your Wedding Day, and you'll be able to handle your emotions on your wedding day.
I'll teach you the skills and techniques you need to know, so you can make that walk down the aisle with calm, grace, joy and emotional connectedness. Join me -- in-person or on the phone -- at this fun & fascinating afternoon workshop to learn what I've been teaching brides for 10 years that will help you prepare emotionally & mentally for Your Big Day.
Get my 10 Essential Wedding Day Tips that will help you stay calm & grounded amidst all the excitement. So you can be the happy, calm & joyful bride you want to be.
Can't make it to Manchester-by-the-Sea, Mass., for the April 13 workshop? No problem!
Join me Sunday, April 14 from 2-4pm, for a LIVE WEBINAR from the comfort of your own home. Click here to register. Early-bird registration (20% off) ends March 27.
For more information, visit my website or drop me an email.
Thanks for letting me help you prepare emotionally for your Big Day.