Big deposits are due for spring weddings, and that causes brides to fully face what they are doing with their lives.
So I'm busy. Wonderfully busy.
I have a great new group of brides from all over the globe working with me. This week, I've been finding myself asking many of them one very simple question:
"Do you want this marriage?"
The answers are all over the map.
"No, not this relationship as it stands right now," said one bride.
"Um, I really don't know," said another. "That's why I contacted you."
"Yes, absolutely, yes," say most brides I work with. And they quickly follow up by saying, "So why am I feeling so anxious and chaotic inside right now? I know I want to marry him, so why do I feel like this?"
There are many reasons why some brides feel overwhelmed and anxious. Here are some of the emotional challenges I worked with brides on this week:
- Getting "financially naked" with your fiance -- how important it is, how vulnerable you might feel, but ultimately how much comfort it will bring knowing the facts
- Letting go of your own apartment or home -- how sad, difficult and confusing that is, because you know you want to live with him
- Understanding the psychology of your & his families and how it plays out in your relationship -- the marriages you both grew up in, the patterns you both learned