So, how many gowns have you tried on?
My post this week on Brides.com:
There once was a bride,
Wouldn't couldn't be satisfied.
Even after trying on 100 dresses.
Sounds an old-timey limerick or haiku, doesn't it?
Sadly, it isn't: it's the very modern-day true story of a bride I worked with who was still disappointed in her wedding gown, even after trying on more than 100 dresses.
Partly, it's the Internet to blame: there's always that gnawing sense that, if you just click around enough, you will find that 100% perfect dress. We're all plagued by a chronic sense of dissatisfaction, a sense we could find "the one" — if we just put in more time and effort.
But the Internet's not solely to blame here. Because, it turns out, this bride didn't actually have a dress problem. It was a trusting-herself issue....
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My mini-blog series continues
How 3 brides felt DURING the walk down the aisle.
Your walk down the aisle is the most epic, most photographed, most significant brief walk of your life. How will you feel as you make your way to your soon-to-be husband? You can't predict, but you can learn what three other brides experienced.
Here's how one bride worked through her feelings of engagement anxiety
I can tell you how effective bridal counseling can be at dealing with cases of cold feet, engagement depression and engagement anxiety.
But it's far more effective to hear it straight from a bride.
This blog was written by Ashley, author also of Dear Newly Engaged Me: Here's a Laundry List of Things I Wish I'd Known From the Start. Read below about her journey from panicked to peaceful.
"Eight months before my wedding, I completely freaked out."
Four months earlier, I happily said "yes!" to a wonderful man who understood me inside and out and was perfect on paper.
Before getting engaged, I loved my relationship.
Now, I was no longer attracted to my fiance. I was questioning the whole relationship.
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Real Brides Share: How I Felt 15 Minutes Before the Ceremony
This bride worked with me for 6 months.
She wrote this blog 3 months after her wedding.
Dear Newly Engaged Me:
First, slow down. Enjoy getting engaged. Let it really sink in. Float on Cloud 9 for a while.
Do not listen to everyone who says you must run out and pick a venue a year in advance. It’s simply not true.
Enjoy ring shopping
It’s the best part of the wedding-planning process, because you’re the only one involved.
Your opinion is the only one you’re hearing. It won't always be like that.
Everyone will have an opinion -- simply. everyone. Your boss, co-workers, cashiers at the grocery store, every sales person in the wedding industry. Everyone seems to have opinions about everything.
Educate yourself about what's normal -- but not talked about
You will be exhausted, emotionally, early on. Be nice to yourself, take a step back, don’t think about the wedding for a while. Take a break, you will need it.
Read and re-read Allison’s book, Emotionally Engaged: A Bride's Guide to Surviving the "Happiest" Time of Your Life again and again and watch the Happy Bride's Secret Toolkit videos. Educate yourself on what's normal for brides-to-be to feel, but not talked about.
Let go of any expectations you may have. You won’t be able to anticipate what happens next.
When the ring isn't quite right, some brides are sent down a rabbit hole of anxiety:
The holidays are a magical time for engaged couples
You and your fiancé will be the center of attention. You’ll receive gifts, toasts, and good wishes. You’ll have parties thrown for you. You’ll be asked all about your wedding. You’ll feel more in love with your fiancé than you have since he popped the question.
Even better yet: you’ll find yourselves envisioning holidays in years to come, imagining new traditions you’ll start and the children that you’ll share them with.
Don't be surprised, though, by "blue" Christmas moments
They may occur:
After I work with clients, I like to get feedback about our time together. It not only helps me improve my craft, but I like to think it also helps to remind them of how far they have come.
Below are thoughts from a groom I recently worked with -- Nick, an engineer from Sacramento, California.
Yes, you read that correctly -- I work with grooms too! I know guys don't always LOVE asking for help, but there's something to be said for a man that is willing to admit he can't do everything alone ... That's our kind of guy: cue the applause!
Before I contacted Allison, I felt overwhelmed.
My analytical brain was on overdrive, and I knew I wasn't in a good place. I knew I had found the woman I wanted to marry, but I was unsure of whether I could go through with it.
How could I be absolutely sure I was doing the right thing?
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