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"Eight months before my wedding, I completely freaked out."
"Whenever anyone mentioned the wedding or my fiancé, my throat tightened. I'd get short of breath. My heart raced. I was scared.
Four months earlier, I happily said "yes!" to a wonderful man who understood me inside and out and was perfect on paper.
Before getting engaged, I loved my relationship.
I loved him, felt lucky to be with him, and that we had such a special and magical relationship.
Now, I was no longer attracted to my fiance. I was questioning the whole relationship.
Educate yourself about what's normal -- but not talked about
Your engagement will be a wild ride, emotionally.
You will be exhausted, emotionally, early on. Be nice to yourself, take a step back, don’t think about the wedding for a while. Take a break, you will need it.
Read and re-read Allison’s book, Emotionally Engaged: A Bride's Guide to Surviving the "Happiest" Time of Your Life again and again and watch the Happy Bride's Secret Toolkit videos. Educate yourself on what's normal for brides-to-be to feel, but not talked about.
Let go of any expectations you may have. You won’t be able to anticipate what happens next.
When the ring isn't quite right, some brides are sent down a rabbit hole of anxiety:
The holidays are a magical time for engaged couples
Don't be surprised, though, by "blue" Christmas moments
Many brides describe moments of being flooded by an irrational sadness at some point during the holidays
They may occur:
Before I contacted Allison, I felt overwhelmed.
Unable to deal with the the complexities of both my changing situations and the emotions that went along with them.
My analytical brain was on overdrive, and I knew I wasn't in a good place. I knew I had found the woman I wanted to marry, but I was unsure of whether I could go through with it.
How could I be absolutely sure I was doing the right thing?
Where are you spending Thanksgiving this year? With your family, or with your fiance's?
In this 2-minute video, I offer up 5 tips that will set you both up for a Happy Thanksgiving.
From clarifying expectations and respecting family cultures to taking time for yourself, individually and as a couple, these 5 tips will set you up for a successful day, whether it's his family's turkey or yours.
You may want to share the video with your fiance, so he can set himself up for success with your family, too.
Forward to your best girlfriends. Married women who've seen this video have told me, "I wish I had this information at the beginning of my marriage!"
Do you have any advice or tips you want to share with other brides? Please comment below.
Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!