Yippee for me! 

This time of year, traffic on this website jumps, and a whole new group of newly engaged brides-to-be are coming my way.  

Looking for explanations for why being engaged is so much more complicated than they ever anticipated.

Looking for answers to questions such as:

• Why am I excited one minute and a puddle of tears the next?
• Why don't I feel ONLY happy?
• Why is my Dad acting so weird (and cold)?
• Why is my Mom so on my case about setting a date? (We've been engaged for, like, 5 minutes!)
• Why am I thinking about my ex boyfriend?
• Why am I constantly asking myself, "Will we be happy in 5, 10, 15 years?"
• Why am I anxious, sad and confused..when I thought I'd only be happy?
• Why, if I bring this up to family and friends, do they get a horrified look on their face and tell me, "But this should be the happiest time of your life?"

Worried you'll have jitters on your wedding day?

Then read this piece in today's New York Times by Alyson Kreuger:  Got Wedding Jitters? Take a Hike (or Grab Your Blankie).

Great stories of how brides cope on their wedding days, and expert advice.

I'm thrilled to be included!

For all you newly engaged brides out there, my Dec 26 post on Brides.com:

Here's today's post from Brides.com:

Don’t text your engagement news or post it on Facebook. 

Instead, you and your fiancé meet with important family and friends to share your news.

Or at least make a phone call with both of you on the line.

Contrast how different you’ll feel by getting a lot of Facebook “likes,” “OMG!” and “Congrats” responses versus hearing friends’ excited screams at your announcement, feeling their happy hugs, accepting their heartfelt congratulations, drinking their celebratory Champagne, and sharing your joy. 

​The latter sure sounds like a lot more fun and will create a lasting lifelong memory, marking the beginning of your engagement. Now that, we “like”!

Here's the very successful story of Erin, a 27-year-old bride-to-be, who I helped get married this summer.
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Do you see yourself in her story?

You've known your partner's family for a while now. Love 'em or leave 'em, becoming a part of his or her family requires a different, more flexible and more patient mindset. For all the brides-to-be who are about to become daughter-in-laws, here are some tips and things to remember to seamlessly becoming a part of your new family.

1. You are a stranger in a strange land. 
Think of your time with your new in-laws as if you're traveling to a foreign country. His family's traditions and customs will be different from your family's. Have respect and remember that they've functioned perfectly well for generations their way. Don't go in guns-blazing to try to make them more like yours.

2. They speak a foreign language. 
You may all be speaking English, but as a newcomer, you can't know the subtext of what's going on in a conversation: the meaning, intent, and history behind the words spoken are unknown to you. Don't assume you understand the deep meaning of your father-in-law's "Hmmm, that's interesting."

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View the full slideshow here, including "Just Say No To The Wedding Industry" and "Find Your Solo Bliss"

Click here to read my full post on Brides.com.