I was recently engaged for 14 months. During that time, I learned a secret they never tell you on StyleMePretty: engagements fucking suck. They’re also joyful and fun, but there’s a lot more suck involved than you’d expect.
But she's struck a chord on the xojane.com website: a phenomenal 179 comments posted in less than 24 hours....and counting.
And that's because she writes -- straightforwardly and hilariously -- about the emotional work of being engaged:
Engagement is a time of monumental transition. You’re redefining your relationship not just with your fiancé, but also with your family, your friends, yourself, your personal space, your dreams and ambitions -- everything.
Whoever can face such profound change without at least a twinge of anxiety and grief, please tell me what drug you’re on, because I want some.
She gets the message through -- loud and clear -- that there is much important emotional work to do during your engagement, too.
The title of the piece? "I Love My Marriage, But Hated My Engagement."