My family and I live 45 minutes north of Boston.
We were far enough away to be safe from the bombings and the manhunt, and we were close enough to be deeply affected.
Friends and family were on lockdown last Friday. Brides and grooms that I work with were, too.
My thoughts kept circling back to them:
How were they dealing, as a couple, under the extreme stress?
What was it like to be cooped up in their apartments under those scary circumstances?
Were they coming together? Helping each other? Comforting one another? Supporting each other? Were they connected, kind, sympathetic and gentle with each other?
Or did the stress of the situation expose cracks in their relationship? Were they impatient, critical, unkind? Did they flee to separate rooms to ride it out alone?
What were they learning about each other's character during the lockdown? Did they like what they saw and experienced... or not?
Lockdowns don't happen every day in a marriage. But you and your fiance will, in the course of your lifetime together, go through times of extreme stress.
The question is: Does extreme stress bring you together...or push you apart?
Food for thought.
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