Emotionally Engaged
617-935-3362
  • Free Consult
  • Unhappy Bride
  • Brides
    • Why???
    • What Brides Say
    • Could This Be You?
    • Post-Wedding
    • FAQs
    • Book
  • Grooms
  • Parents
  • Cold Feet
  • About
    • Media Appearances
  • Blog

"How to Deal with a Bridezilla" on Radio MD

8/13/2013

4 Comments

 
Brides often get a bad rap for being "Bridezillas" -- demanding, detail-obsessed, unyielding, even selfish and argumentative.  

But as I explain in this this interview on RadioMD with Melanie Cole, MS, "How to Deal with a Bridezilla," there's a reason for all this bridal drama....and there are some very helpful ways that bridesmaids and friends of the bride can do and say to the bride to dial it down.

To listen to this 10-minute interview, click here.

And be sure to pass it along to your bridesmaids, so they can help move out of crisis-mode and re-focus on what's truly important: getting married.

Feeling like a bridezilla? Contact me for a free 15-minute video consultation. I'll be in touch within 24 hours.

Allison Moir-Smith
Picture
4 Comments

When the Wedding Dress Doesn't Feel Quite Right

8/5/2013

0 Comments

 
So glad I didn't just recycle my unread stack of Sunday NY Times because I came across this gem:  "Say No to the Dress," by Joanna Hershon, and her tale of having the ultimate aspirational wedding dress:
Picture ...the 7th floor at Bergdort Goodman. Picture the Bridal Specialist...clutching her clipboard.  Picture several Russian seamstresses with pins in their mouths...Picture the Mother -- mine -- and me: young, happy, tense.  I'm in the Dress.  

It was lovely and elegant and expensive....

I was rightfully grateful to have a mother who not only could afford to take me wedding-dress shopping at Bergdorf Goodman but who actually loved every minute of it. I wanted to make her happy.
Picture
But the bride herself was drawn to another style of dress altogether: 
My eyes had wandered toward something more bohemian, less voluminous, but in terms of big purchases, in terms of fashion, I listened to my mother
Yet during the many subsequent fittings, the lovely, elegant and expensive dress just didn't feel right:
This dress, which cost about as much money as I'd made in the last year [as a writer] had flattered my waist and -- at least temporarily -- made me feel like dancing.  

But I couldn't see it anymore.
Between the initial purchase of the dress, when she was financially dependent on her parents as an actress and writer, and the final fitting 2 weeks before the wedding, her she sold her novel, for a lot of money.  That changed things, among them her feelings about herself AND her wedding dress:
I took off the dress that we'd chosen -- my mother and I -- when my life had looked one way. 
She tried on another dress -- "a 1930s fantasy -- silky, backless":
I felt the silk fall over my body like a sheet of cool water, I realized my life looked another way now.  I also realized that the dress was a perfect fit.

"Wow," my mother said. 
Even her Mom knew the second dress was the right dress and didn't put up a fuss with the switch.  Because the second dress more accurately reflected and represented who her daughter was and was becoming.

Have you had an experience like this during your engagement, when something you ordered or committed to at the beginning of your engagement didn't feel right as your wedding date approached?  

Did it feel off because something about you has changed in the intervening months? What was changed in you? What changed in your relationship to yourself or others?

I'd love to hear your experiences -- please share below.

Contact me for your free 15-minute consultation: click here!

Allison Moir-Smith
0 Comments

    How to be a Happier
    ​Bride-to-Be

    Picture

    Free Consultation

    Blog Categories

    All
    Advice
    Anxiety
    Book To Blog
    Brides.com Blogs
    Brides: Feelings
    Brides: Sessions
    Brides: Success Stories
    Cold Feet
    Dear Newly Engaged Me
    Depression
    Emotionally Engaged
    Emotions
    Engagement
    Family
    Grief
    Help For Brides
    Holidays
    Love
    Mother
    Myths
    Psychology
    Real Emotions
    Relationships
    Sessions W Brides
    Wedding Day
    Wedding Planning
    Wedding Stress

    Archives

    May 2022
    April 2021
    April 2020
    March 2020
    December 2019
    October 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    December 2018
    October 2018
    December 2017
    March 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    July 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    December 2014
    November 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    June 2014
    May 2014
    April 2014
    March 2014
    February 2014
    January 2014
    December 2013
    November 2013
    October 2013
    September 2013
    August 2013
    July 2013
    June 2013
    May 2013
    April 2013
    March 2013
    February 2013
    January 2013
    December 2012

    RSS Feed

Picture
Picture
Picture
Picture
Picture
Picture
Picture
Picture
Picture
Picture
Picture
Picture
Free Consult
Cold Feet
Contact

Helping brides & grooms feel happier, calmer and better prepared for marriage since 2002.
​