| Chapter 10, the final chapter of Emotionally Engaged, digs deep into your new life following the wedding -- your new life as a wife. The ceremony flowers, and reception band are a distant memory. Your honeymoon now only lives through the (many!) pictures. And now your are presented with a whole new you, a whole new life.. a whole new identity. While this can be a trying time for many brides, be comforted by the number 18. |  |
After about 18 months of marriage, your sense of self will once again stabilize
Below I have included a portion of the Chapter that addresses the concept of ‘For Richer, For Poorer.’
While it may be simple to proudly speak these words on your Big Day, it’s the follow-through that can test you.
While it may be simple to proudly speak these words on your Big Day, it’s the follow-through that can test you.
For richer, for poorer
Money had always been a tricky territory for Carrie to navigate with Alex.
As you may remember, she threw a fit when she heard about Alex’s $9,000 credit-card debt when they went to apply for a mortgage.
After that experience, even though she wanted her life to be as integrated with Alex’s as possible, Carrie was wary about combining finances and reluctant to open a joint checking account.
As you may remember, she threw a fit when she heard about Alex’s $9,000 credit-card debt when they went to apply for a mortgage.
After that experience, even though she wanted her life to be as integrated with Alex’s as possible, Carrie was wary about combining finances and reluctant to open a joint checking account.
She didn’t quite trust that Alex wouldn’t go in the hole again
So the couple divvied up the household bills and traded off buying dinner for each other....
Six months later, Alex was running late to meet his friends for golf, and he didn’t have time to go to the ATM.
“Honey, do you have any money?” Alex asked her, frantically.
“I have lots of cash in my purse,” she replied. “Take what you need.”
As Alex raced out the door, golf clubs crashing together in his bag, Carrie took note of what had happened:
Six months later, Alex was running late to meet his friends for golf, and he didn’t have time to go to the ATM.
“Honey, do you have any money?” Alex asked her, frantically.
“I have lots of cash in my purse,” she replied. “Take what you need.”
As Alex raced out the door, golf clubs crashing together in his bag, Carrie took note of what had happened:
Her money didn't feel like "hers" anymore; it was "their" money
In fact, that incident caused Carrie to reflect that she hadn’t been keeping a running tally for the last few weeks. She’d just stopped keeping track.
“It didn’t matter whose pocket or account it came out of,” she told me, “because it was all family money.”
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“It didn’t matter whose pocket or account it came out of,” she told me, “because it was all family money.”
This is the last installation of our Book-to-Blog series, and we would like to thank our readers for following the posts. To read more of what the book has to hold continue on here ...
Thank you!
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