Book to Blog, Chapter 3: The Last First Kiss -- Grieving the End of Your Single Life

In chapter three I address the emotions that surface when facing the idea of the end of "single you." 

Though the time of being engaged can be an exciting whirlwind for brides, it also can feel... lonely. 

Lonely because you feel you may lose some degree of intimacy with your single girlfriends. 

Lonely because your identity is going from career-woman to wife. 

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Lonely because you are trying to adjust to whole new YOU

Below I have included an excerpt from the chapter that dives into the concept of  moving out of your place, and into your fiancés (or vice-a-versa) and the emotions that may come along with now sharing one of the most personal things – a home.

Moving has never been a major trauma for Pauline

In fact, she was that rare bird who actually enjoyed the process of searching for the perfect apartment, packing up her belongings, and starting new. It had always been more of an adventure than a source of stress for Pauline.

Until she packed to move into her fiancés apartment

This move was unlike all the others. 

“I had a very keen awareness that I would be unpacking my boxes as a married person, and that alone was enough to send me off the deep end,” said Pauline.

For Pauline, the line between single life and married life was very distinct. 

She’d never lived with a guy before, so she was crossing over that line into marriage. 

“No longer would I be single,” she remembers thinking as she packed. “My life would be entwined with somebody else’s. 

"I could no longer make decisions that affected only me"

I was anticipating having somebody around all the time. 

It was a lot to get used to.” 

Click here to find out more of what Chapter 3 holds!

Please share your thoughts in the comments below, and stay tuned for next week’s installment of "Book to Blog" – Chapter 4!

Allison Moir-Smith