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Dear Newly Engaged Me:  Here's a laundry list of what I wish I'd known from the start:

2/11/2016

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This bride worked with me for 6 months.
​She wrote this blog 3 months after her wedding.

Dear Newly Engaged Me:

First, slow down.  Enjoy getting engaged. Let it really sink in.  Float on Cloud 9 for a while. 

Do not listen to everyone who says you must run out and pick a venue a year in advance. It’s simply not true. 

Enjoy ring shopping

It’s the best part of the wedding-planning process, because you’re the only one involved. 

​Your opinion is the only one you’re hearing.  
It won't always be like that.

Everyone will have an opinion -- simply. everyone. Your boss, co-workers, cashiers at the grocery store, every sales person in the wedding industry.  Everyone seems to have opinions about everything.
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Educate yourself about what's normal -- but not talked about

Your engagement will be a wild ride, emotionally.  

You will be exhausted, emotionally, early on. Be nice to yourself, take a step back, don’t think about the wedding for a while.  Take a break, you will need it. 

Read and re-read Allison’s book, Emotionally Engaged: A Bride's Guide to Surviving the "Happiest" Time of Your Life again and again and watch the Happy Bride's Secret Toolkit videos.  Educate yourself on what's normal for brides-to-be to feel, but not talked about.

Let go of any expectations you may have.  You won’t be able to anticipate what happens next.

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Dear Newly Engaged Me: My anxiety shifted when I realized these 3 things

3/10/2015

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By bride-to-be L. 
I’ve been engaged for 6 months, and I have more than a year before the wedding. 

I must say: engagement didn’t come easy for me.

When my boyfriend asked me to marry him 3 months before we actually became engaged, I said what I felt in my heart and in my head at the time: “I don’t know.” 

Dear Newly Engaged Me
At that time, I was struggling with a lot of stress and anxiety about my place in life and my future.  I was living in a city where I didn’t want to live, at a job that didn’t feel right, and with a man that I knew I loved... but I was struggling with a lot of big questions.

Did I love him enough to be married to him forever?


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Dear Newly Engaged Me: The wedding's in 8 days. Here's what I wish I'd known from the beginning

7/10/2014

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Dear Newly Engaged Me. Here's what I wish I'd known 18 months ago
A brief note from Allison:  

I'm excited to launch this new series -- Dear Newly Engaged Me, written by brides themselves -- about their own experiences of being engaged.  These are intimate, personal portraits, and most brides ask to remain anonymous.  If you'd like to contribute, email me!  

Thanks to Dear Me: A Letter to My 16-Year-Old Self for the inspiration.  Please check out this wonderful site and book.

This first Dear Newly Engaged Me is written by a 31-year-old bride. We worked together via Skype weekly for four months leading up to her wedding. 

Dear Newly Engaged Me:

I'm getting married in eight days. I feel good -- great, in fact.  Excited. Happy.  Certain.  And very, very busy with last-minute details.

But it wasn't always that way for me during this 18 months of being engaged. Not by a long shot.

It's OK to think he isn't "The One"


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