In Chapter Two of Emotionally Engaged: A Bride's Guide to Surviving the "Happiest" Time of Her Life,  I share the story of Erica, a bride whose engagement turned out to be the opposite of the fantasy she had always envisioned. 

In order for a bride to best understand that all the emotions and anxieties she is feeling are actually normal -- and even necessary -- I discuss and debunk the most common wedding myths. 

Below I have included a snippet of my favorite myth ... debunked!

Thrilled to be featured on the back page of our fancy, glossy North Shore magazine!

The article's impossible to read on the image at right, so I'm typing it up for you here.

With media appearances on the TODAY show and Good Morning America, a published book titled Emotionally Engaged: A Bride's Guide to Surviving the "Happiest" Time of Her Life, and accolades from Brides, Cosmopolitan, Elle, and Modern Bride magazines, bridal counselor Allison Moir-Smith knows what tying the know is and is not.

How did this come to be your area of expertise?  I trained as a psychotherapist but came to focus on brides due to my own experience as a bride-to-be.  At the time, I was 35 years old and kind of an emotional wreck throughout my engagement.  I was happy, but also surprisingly sad, scared, and overwhelmed.  I kept thinking, 'Hey! Isn't this supposed to be the happiest time of my life?' 

My training told me this wasn't just garden-variety cold feet.  I worked hard to get at the root causes, and by my wedding day, I was ready to get married.  That challenging time changed my life.  Once I emerged from my pre-wedding jitters, I had a clearer, stronger sense of self.  I decided I wanted to help other brides-to-be navigate the confusing maze of emotions prior to their marriages.

Why do you take such an interest in the emotional well-being of brides-to-be?  I know firsthand that the engagement period can be a strangely lonely and isolating time of life.  Friends ad family are so excited and want to focus on the fun details.  Few ever ask about a bride's inner emotional life.  It's a period of huge personal growth.  Essentially, she's ending her life as a single woman.  She's adding a new branch to her family tree.  She's learning how to be a daughter-in-law.  She's no longer a girlfriend.  She's preparing to become a wife.  And she's trying to figure it all out while planning the most important and most expensive party of her life.  I want to impart that it's totally normal to feel overwhelmed, sad, and unsettled amidst all the goodness.  I want to give them some peace before their wedding day.

What is the most common piece of advice you give those who are questioning their feelings?  I tell them, 'This is a complicated time of life, and that's OK.' I say this again and again because women often believe  their engagements should only be blissful, romantic, and filled with champagne, roses, tastings, fittings, pampering and ease.  It's a myth promoted by bridal magazines, fairy tales, and Hollywood.

What sources/references do you use to help inform clients?  I have brides read my book, Emotionally Engaged: A Bride's Guide to Surviving the 'Happiest" Time of Her Life. I also encourage them to read marriage researcher John Gottman's book, The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work.  It's an excellent guide on how to be (and stay) married.

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Brides often get a bad rap for being "Bridezillas" -- demanding, detail-obsessed, unyielding, even selfish and argumentative.  

But as I explain in this this interview on RadioMD with Melanie Cole, MS, "How to Deal with a Bridezilla," there's a reason for all this bridal drama....and there are some very helpful ways that bridesmaids and friends of the bride can do and say to the bride to dial it down.

To listen to this 10-minute interview, click here.

And be sure to pass it along to your bridesmaids, so they can help move out of crisis-mode and re-focus on what's truly important: getting married.

What kind of couple are you? 
What type of wedding-planning help do you need?

How to be a VIB (Very Important Bride) on your wedding day.  I'm psyched Emotionally Engaged's included in this sassy, fun & clever piece in Daily Candy