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Nervous About Being the Center of Attention On Your Wedding Day? 10 Reasons Why You Should, and 5 Reasons You Shouldn't 

4/8/2014

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Some brides just can't wait to be the center of attention on their wedding days.  It's their time to shine, their dream come true.  They love the spotlight. They're  wired that way.

Other brides feel a whisper of dread when they imagine walking down the aisle.

Maybe you're a really private person.
Maybe you're introverted.
Maybe you're downright shy.
Maybe you feel pressure to perform.

That makes sense, because weddings are both intensely private and profoundly public

All eyes are on you, as you commit the intimate act of joining together for the rest of your lives.

So when someone says to you: “Don’t be nervous walking down the aisle," you think, "Um, how?"

You’re going to hear "don't be nervous" from everybody – your rabbi, your minister.  Your maid of honor, your bridesmaids.  Your Mom, your Dad.  Your wedding coordinator. Even those teeny tiny flower girls might tell you: “Don’t be nervous.”
 
Don’t be nervous?  Yeah, right.  Are they the ones wearing the big, white dress, with all eyes on them, about to make a lifelong decision?  We think not.

Here are 10 reasons why you should expect to be nervous:

1.  It is the grandest of entrances.

2.  It is one of those Big Moments in life. 

3.  It is silent.

4.  It is ceremonial: your guests will stand to honor you.

5.  It is transformative: you are walking out of one stage of your life and into a new one.

6. It is unknown and unpredictable: you can try to anticipate how you’re going to feel, but in the moment, you can’t control it. (Nor should you, if you want to be authentic.)

7.  It is sad: just look at your wistful Mom and Dad.

8.  It is powerful and moving: just look at your choked-up fiancé.

9.  It is the most photographed walk of your life:  how odd it is to be the subject of paparazzos.

10.  It is nothing short of life changing and profound.

It’s OK to be nervous – got it? ​

Here are 5 reasons to counter-balance your nervousness: 

1. You are not alone.  Whether or not you walk with your Dad, parents, or solo, you are not alone. You’ve surrounded yourself with your nearest and dearest.
 
2. It’s epic and ancient.  Think of the billions of brides who’ve come before you. You are walking in their footsteps. We think this is a pretty cool concept.
 
3. It’s a forgiving crowd.  Remember: you’re not giving work presentation in front of your cutthroat co-workers. Everyone in this crowd is so happy for you.
 
4. He’s waiting at the end of the aisle.  This wonderful man you’ve chosen, who’ll walk with you in life til the end of your days. 
 
5. This is what you want.  This man. This life.  This future.  It all begins now.  All you have to do is take that walk down the aisle.

Want more personalized tips for your walk down the aisle? Contact me for a free 15-min video consultation.  Let's meet!

Let me help you feel better prepared for your wedding day.  Schedule your consultation now.
Allison Moir-Smith
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