From the mothers who insist on taking on the wedding-planning-role, to siblings refusing to build a relationship with the fiancé – it can be a hectic, overwhelming time.
I share stories of brides who each had different experiences, but all eventually had to face what was really going on beneath the surface.
Below I have included a portion of Maria’s story.
With only five months until her
wedding, Maria only had one thing nailed down: her dress
Letting go of your family role
In Maria’s warring family, for example, someone needed to play the role of peacemaker. Her parents and siblings obviously couldn’t do it, since they were combatants, so she was inevitably cast in the part.
Playing that role fulfilled both her need to feel appreciated by each family member and her family’s need for a calming presence....
Getting married is one of those times when it is necessary to shed some of your old ways
Maria, for example, wanted to be fully and wholeheartedly married to Jeff. She wanted to expand her self-image to include the role of wife.