A Groom's Report: 32-year-old Kyle works through cold feet

"When I got engaged, I was sure I was making the right decision.

However, a few nagging thoughts escalated in the months between the engagement and the wedding.

Fixating on those thoughts eventually put me in a place where my anxiety and fear made me question my relationship.

I worried that I'd have to spend a little time every day in my marriage being sad. 

Working with Allison, I was able to unpack my relationship anxiety and realize how much of my current worry was tied up in problems that had nothing to do with my fiancee.

Allison helped me realize that I wasn't doomed to make the same mistakes my parents and their parents did, and helped me to find new ways to appreciate and remember the person I'd fallen in love with. 

My work with Allison helped me to communicate with my wife as a partner and to view my emotional responses from the outside, and realize why I sometimes felt the way I did, and how it had nothing to do with my fiancee, but with the responses that had learned over the course of my life.

​Knowing this let me work through how I felt, and gave me the tools to be a better husband and a better person, as well as happier.

Our wedding day was doubt-free, fear-free, anxiety-free and better than I could have hoped for.

I think that socially, men aren't expected to grapple with the sort of emotional intensity that comes with marriage, and that expectation makes the anxiety of getting married even more isolating.

Allison helped me normalize what I was feeling and find the roots of it, and I'll always be grateful for our work together.

​I cannot recommend her highly enough."

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