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From "fetal position" to the happiest wedding day: One bride's very successful bridal counseling experience

10/21/2016

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Here's the very successful story of Erin, a 27-year-old bride-to-be, who I helped get married this summer.
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Do you see yourself in her story?

Before meeting with Allison, I felt terrified, isolated, and confused.

I was so scared that what I was feeling wasn't "normal."  

Scared that seeing Allison meant I had somehow failed at being a bride-to-be. 
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Scared that I was making the wrong decision in choosing to marry my fiancé. 
I also felt incredibly isolated. 

I didn't know who I could turn to with these doubts and worries that consumed my daily being. 

​It was scary to think about being so vulnerable with my family and friends, who expected me to be happy about my upcoming nuptials. 

The rare times I had tried to breach the topic with a few trusted confidants, I left the conversations feeling worse than ever.  I was so confused and felt utterly alone. 

I felt helpless, sad, and frustrated -- wasn't my engagement supposed to be the happiest time of my life?   
   

Working with Allison, I learned that everything I was experiencing was normal (and even to be expected!):

Simply having Allison remind me, time and time again, that what I was feeling and thinking was not abnormal, and that many brides-to-be experienced the same exact things was immensely reassuring. 

To know that I wasn't a defective bride lifted a huge weight off of my shoulders. 

Allison also helped me to correctly identify my emotions. 

Prior to our meetings, I was labeling everything as "wedding anxiety."  

Allison enabled me to take a step back and identify what was really going on.  She helped me to realize that I was, in fact, angry at my Mom, or frustrated with my in-laws,  or sad about the impending life changes. 

And not only that, but Allison taught me to honor these feelings. 

Before meeting with Allison, I had been suppressing all of the less-than-ideal emotions, under the guise that as a bride-to-be I should only be happy and excited. 

​Once I began truly feeling my emotions, I was able to go through the wedding planning process in a much more authentic way.
 

Because of this work, on my wedding day, I was ELATED!

I was able to truly enjoy every moment of the day. 

However, the night of our rehearsal dinner I was an absolute wreck.  I didn't want to be there, and I barely made it through the night.  The moment I got in the car to head home I broke down. 

I sobbed for almost two hours, simply because I was so overwhelmed that the big day was imminent!  As I was bawling my eyes out though, I kept hearing Allison's voice encouraging me to feel my feelings in the most authentic way possible, and reminding me that  these waves of emotion would pass. 

​I cried and cried, and cried some more, and fell asleep that night feeling utterly exhausted, unsure of what the morning would bring.  ​

I woke up on my wedding day feeling SO EXCITED!

Because I had let myself feel nervous, scared, and worried the night before, and had allowed myself to process those feelings through uncontrolled crying, I was ready for the day ahead. 

I had spent months preparing emotionally for this moment, and I was ready! 

There were a few moments of nervousness and frustration over the course of the day, but I would acknowledge them and then move on. 

Because I was truly honoring my feelings, the day was absolutely beautiful!  I felt so in tune with myself, my husband(!) and those around me.  

​It was truly an amazing day!   ​

Does your engagement need a turnaround?
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