You are not alone, if you've found this site and are wanting help with your wedding stress.
Here's a whole article in today's New York Times: Why Stress When You Can See a Wedding Therapist.
It's always an honor to be in the paper of record!
A recent note from a bride:
Thank you so much for helping me work through the transition of single to married woman.
I acknowledge that Alex and I would not be where we are today if it wasn't for your support throughout the year and months before the wedding in May.
Going into my wedding day with such a clear and calm mind -- despite the normal exhaustion :) -- allowed me to be fully present and help me to focus on the true meaning of the day, rather than my anxiety.
I really cannot thank you enough for all that you've done (and continue to do) to prepare me for this marriage.
We all compare our relationships – even when we know it’s not good for us.
We judge our own relationships against, well, basically every other couple that walks the earth, wondering if they are more in love/have better sex/are better friends/are more compatible/have what it takes to last for a lifetime.
The comparisons go on and on and on. Endlessly.
Who do you compare your relationship to?
Your annoying Facebook friend with her perfectly curated marriage (“My husband brought me flowers again, third time this week!!!”)?
The perfectly athletic blonde-and-blue-eyed couple next door?
Harry and Megan?
There's one comparison you're constantly making -- and you don't even know it.
Here's a roundup of success stories and journeys of brides and grooms I've worked with.
The common denominators among them?
Read about the turnarounds these brides and grooms achieved:
Jenna. "Three months after getting engaged, I started feeling uncertain...."
Nick: "My analytical brain was in over-drive...."
Erin: "I was so scared that what I was feeling wasn't "normal."
Ashley: "Eight months before our wedding, I completely freaked out."
Alec, Jake, Gary, and more men: "I think that men aren't expected to grapple with the emotional intensity that comes with marriage, and that expectation makes the anxiety of getting married even more isolating."
Rachel, Samantha, Jasmine, and more women: "With my wedding just a few days away, I feel calm, content, and together."
Want to make a similar turnaround?
The holidays are a magical time for engaged couples. You and your fiancé will be the center of attention. You’ll receive gifts, toasts, and good wishes. You’ll have parties thrown for you. You’ll be asked all about your wedding. You’ll feel more in love with your fiancé than you have since he popped the question.
Even better yet: you’ll find yourselves envisioning holidays in years to come, imagining new traditions you’ll start and the children that you’ll share them with.
Don't be surprised, though, by "blue" Christmas moments.
I was overwhelmed. I constantly had a pit in my stomach. I cried often, and I almost called off my wedding.
This time of year, traffic on this website jumps, and a whole new group of newly engaged brides-to-be are coming my way.
Looking for explanations for why being engaged is so much more complicated than they ever anticipated.
Looking for answers to questions such as:
- Why am I excited one minute and a puddle of tears the next?
- Why don't I feel ONLY happy?
- Why is my Dad acting so weird (and cold)?
- Why is my Mom so on my case about setting a date? (We've been engaged for, like, 5 minutes!)
- Why am I thinking about my ex boyfriend?
- Why am I constantly asking myself, "Will we be happy in 5, 10, 15 years?"
- Why am I anxious, sad and confused..when I thought I'd only be happy?
- Why, if I bring this up to family and friends, do they get a horrified look on their face and tell me, "But this should be the happiest time of your life?"
Then read this piece in today's New York Times by Alyson Kreuger: Got Wedding Jitters? Take a Hike (or Grab Your Blankie).
Great stories of how brides cope on their wedding days, and expert advice.
I'm thrilled to be included!
"When I got engaged, I was sure I was making the right decision.
However, a few nagging thoughts escalated in the months between the engagement and the wedding.
Fixating on those thoughts eventually put me in a place where my anxiety and fear made me question my relationship.
I worried that I'd have to spend a little time every day in my marriage being sad.
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